Very true …
The sage advice about not attempting to send CW until you can receive at 10-12wpm has been around for a long time.
Less clear is the extent to which this mantra is validated by surveys, case studies, hard evidence etc.
Questions to reflect on include:
1 For those struggling to send good CW, what proportion attribute their difficulties to having reached prematurely for a Morse key before they had attained 10-12wpm receiving capability?
2 What reasons do those in the SOTA community offer when it comes to analysing their CW travails? How much of this is actually item 1?
3 To what extent can the use of a twin-paddle and electronic keyer help to ‘iron-out’ poor sending? With the basic timing set for a given WPM, and features such as ACS (Auto Character Spacing), arguably you start to bat on a better wicket. That said, el-keyers are not a silver bullet. You can readily find people on the bands who send rotten code despite using paddles and a keyer.
4 Yet, how long should you stay with your hand-key before seeking to move to paddles? How strong is the ‘move sooner rather than later’ argument?
5 If most of your CW comprises SOTA exchanges, plus a few comments about the weather, what chance are you giving yourself to improve?
From long experience, there are some important factors to take on-board:
1 By having many ‘rag-chew’ style QSOs with people who send good CW, long-lasting changes occur in your brain, muscle memory etc that lead to your sending better CW.
2 As the benefits from item 1 accrue, speed improvements will follow.
3 You need lots of practice (weekly?) sending written pages of groups/prose/numbers to yourself, using an AF oscillator or the rig’s sidetone with the TX off. Trains the subconscious, eventually you’ll be able to multi-task, sending CW and talking to your partner at the same time.
4 You will benefit from listening to sustained amounts of machine-sent CW at speeds on the edge of your receive capability; shipping forecasts, prose, poetry, and whatever else. All to be copied in your head.
5 And finally, you need a written plan. Anyone involved in running, cycling, or other sports, knows that real improvement derives mainly from structured training. You either make your own plan, or follow a plan driven by experienced trainers eg, see link below.
The military trained tens of thousands as CW operators. Every day, the training Sergeant told you what to do, and monitored your progress over many months. Most hams will not have the luxury of such a programme. Their CW plan will need to be self-driven and woven into family life, bringing up children, going to work, shopping trips, house jobs etc.
Though challenging, many aspiring amateur sports-people manage to do this, as do those studying with the OU (Open University), and so forth.
In the end, it probably comes down to commitment, determination and a will to succeed. Easier, perhaps, for those with Type-A personalities 
73 Dave